The retreat study was entitled “Insider/Outsider”. Could the subject be more inclusive? Is there anyone that has not felt like one or the other during their lifetime?
The talks were based on the Biblical book of Ruth in the Old Testament. The insider is Naomi, the outsider, her daughter-in-law, Ruth.
This book has continually fascinated me. Most likely it’s because the two main characters are women. And then there is the fact that I read this story when I first became a Christian and I truly admired the male character, so much so that I wanted to name our second son after him, Boaz. That son is thankful that my husband overruled me. I satisfied my urge by naming our next dog Boaz.
Nevertheless, instead of just listening to a good story, I began writing application questions for the intended lesson – to reach out to others, and I added in my mind, especially those who are marginalized. Later I added to that list those who are brokenhearted, captive to sin, imprisoned by poverty, mourning a loss or oppressed. (Isaiah 61:1-3)
Have you ever felt like an outsider of a family, group or culture? Look around you. Can you identify those who may feel like outsiders in your school, workplace or church? How can we welcome those from the outside into our spaces?
Reaching out into the unknown can be scary. Believe me, I know scary. By my human nature I’m a loner. I was raised that way. During the 10 years that I lived with my parents, I can count on my one hand how many times they invited a person into our home, that’s including relatives. But when I became a Christian; I learned that reaching out to others was on God’s agenda for those He calls to Himself. So, like any new fanatic, I went overboard.
My husband’s work as a forester caused our family to move often and when we did we would search in the new area for a church that was biblically sound and had a good kid’s program. When we would find one that met our criteria, after attending a few months, we would join it. But, one such time, I began hearing the complaint from seekers who visited that the members were unfriendly. So I thought of a plan to counter that and suggested it to my husband. “Why don’t we invite a different family each week to come for lunch after the Sunday service?” He was silent and then said, “If you do that, I’ll stop going to church.” And he walked off in a manner that I knew signaled that this matter was not to be discussed further.
I was completely surprised because my husband was a friendly person, often striking up conversations with people he did not know wherever he was. I giggle now because, as years passed, he was the one who invited people over before discussing it with me. And, when we put on an addition to our home, he added a pantry so that I wouldn’t be caught off guard without food for unexpected guests. Obviously, the obstacle to my plan had been overcome with God’s help and the passage of time.
As I look back, I realize that reaching out was what God wanted done but I had not consulted Him on how He wanted it done. He knew that time was needed to do His work in our family.
Will you share what has been your experience as an outsider or insider and what has or hasn’t worked in your attempts at reaching out? We all need suggestions, encouragement and God’s plan and power to get the job done in our culture of isolation.